Tuesday, July 28, 2020

10 Tips for Living a Balanced Life


The definition of a "balanced life" differs from person to person, but it is something that most, if not all of us desire.  To me, living a balanced life means managing my time in such a way that I will be able to do all of the things that are important to me--balancing my social relationships, my personal care and development, community service, career development, and family relationships, .  In order for us to achieve the most balance in our lives, certain guidelines must be followed.

  1. Know who you are.  Know your values and understand your foundation of beliefs.  To honor your true self, you must know yourself well. 
  2. Define your priorities.  Understand what’s important to you, identify your values, and communicate your needs.
  3. Simplify your life.  The more activities and the more possessions you have to manage, the more unbalanced your life will feel. Too much of anything can lead to stress, so avoid over committing yourself. There is nothing worse than rushing from one activity to the next, with no time for *you*.
  4. Devote your full attention to just one priority at a time.  Align your time and your mind so that you're thinking about work when you're at work and you're spending quality time with the family when you're with them.
  5. Monitor your activities.  For every activity that you participate in—everything that you do—ask yourself if those activities fit into your values and priorities.  Balance occurs when who you are, what you want to do in life, and what you value are aligned with your thoughts, activities and choices.
  6. Leverage the time and ability of others—rely on your partner, family members, or friends to help do something while you focus on other top priorities.
  7. Know how to be content.  Count your blessings and realize the completeness of your life.  Part of the reason many people feel unbalanced is that they are always wanting and working for more.  Know when you have enough…and be happy and satisfied with what you have.
  8. Live for today.  Don’t worry about the future and don’t dwell on the past.  Do what you can—the best you can—for today.
  9. Monitor your attitude.  Developing and maintaining a positive attitude makes life more pleasant and more successful.
  10. Schedule time for fun.  Fun and relaxation are an essential part of living a well-balanced life.  If you believe that the most important thing is to be happy in life (not when I'm a millionaire or when I retire but right now) then you can always make time.
We all have been given the same amount of hours in a day, week, and year. What we choose to do with our time is the key difference between those who are in control of our lives and those who are not...between those who are balanced and who are not.
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Discovering Your Inner Energy

Discovering Your Inner Energy

Ever feel fatigued when you know you have had enough sleep? Feel tired and lethargic but not sleepy? Then you need to discover your inner energy. We all have an abundance of inner energy, but unfortunately there are thousands, possibly millions, of factors that robs this energy away from us.

Discovering your inner energy is extremely important because without it, you aren't truly living life. With out your inner energy you are only going through the motions of living life. You are not living it to its fullest. You aren't experiencing events and emotions the way they are meant to be expressed. You may claim to be happy, but can you truly be happy if you are only reaching half of your potential... looking at the world through the eyes of sedation, dreading to get up in the morning only to go to a job that feels pointless? Discovering your inner energy is far more valuable then all the money in the world. This discovery leads to happiness. It is you living your life the way it is meant to be lived. It is seeing the beauty and appreciating every 'mundane' thing that makes this world so wonderful.

If you want to discover your inner energy, you need to make a commitment to yourself. You need to acknowledge that this quest is so much more important than your job and your bank account. You need to make a commitment to prioritize your Life before your so called "responsibilities". I hope I have emphasized the importance of discovering your inner energy because without it you are better off living in a coma, where you don't have to deal with all the negativity and lethargy that plagues your life.


An Awakening

I've chosen to write this about discovering your inner energy because I am finally starting to understand it myself. I have begun waking up. I am finally finding my inner energy. After going through my entire life half asleep, overwhelmed by fear, anxiety, sadness, and exhaustion, I finally decided to do something about it.

In December of 2009, I decided to move to Bangkok, Thailand. It was a decision I made because I felt angry, discouraged, and defeated. I gave up on my life. I didn't care anymore. I decided the only thing worth doing was to fly to Thailand where I can at least offer someone else the chance for happiness. I left my life behind. I gave up on it and moved to the other side of the world to focus on making the woman I loved happy. This became my life purpose. My only purpose.

This idea of desperation turned out to be the best decision I ever made. I quickly learned that she cared about me more than I cared for myself. Because of her love and my one purpose in life, I did what I had put off for a lifetime. I sought medical help. A month later, I came to learn that I was very unhealthy. I received a storm of bad news about multiple problems with my health, my lifestyle, and the consequences. I didn't care. It just gave me an excuse of why I was the way I was; why I was a failure. After receiving this news, I started seeing multiple specialists to fix my problems. I did this for Siri, my new wife, to make her happy.

Two months went by and things started to change. Something happened. I started feeling different.I started seeing life in a completely new way. I began to discover love in ways I didn't think existed. I started noticing the beauty in everyday life. I was now experiencing a type of energy from deep within me, and I felt alive... for the first time in my life.

I chose to share this story because I don't want you to wait until you give up on life to discover this amazing feeling, this amazing life, and the incredible clarity that I never knew existed. Please, make the commitment now to discover your own inner energy and maybe I can help guide you there.


Document Your Life

The first thing you need to do is to start monitoring your life. You can't just go to a doctor and say "help me". You need details, you need what is happening to you, what you are doing to empower it, and exactly what outside and inside influences are affecting your quality of life. More importantly, your doctor needs to know. Start a journal and begin recording every aspect of your life. Record what time you wake up, what time you go to sleep, the amount of sunlight you received for that given day. Record what you ate and every ingredient in the foods you consumed. Track the amount of time you spend moving and the amount of time you spend dormant, sitting in front of a computer or T.V. screen. Write down every detail of every moment of your life.

Next, find out what people honestly think of you. You will likely be surprised to learn that your friends and family know more about you then you know about yourself... even though you pride will cause you to disagree with most things people say about you. Ask for their honest opinions about you and how you live your life. Learn their beliefs about how you would react and handle various circumstances and events. Make a request to have them imitate their perceived version of you. Observe their interpretations of how you are, how you act, and how you react. Write it down. Record every opinion, every word, every action , and everything you may or may not have learned from each friend and family member's feedback.

After you documented our life for approximately a week, and recorded everything that makes you who you are. Its time to make the hardest step of them all, full disclosure.


Let Your True Self be Known

Share all the information you collected with your journal to everybody you know and don't know. Type it into the computer and post it to message boards, forums, and social networks. Get as much feedback, advice, and opinions as you possibly can. Then add those to your journal. This will be extremely hard because opening up your personal life leaves you vulnerable and exposed to criticism and judgement. Its an invasion of privacy in the biggest way. You are exposing your thoughts, the most intimate details of your life, and all your flaws to the entire world for them to critique, judge, gossip and joke about. It will hurt at first, but after a while, you will feel liberated; No more lies, no more secrets, no more sugar coating the truth.

After everything has been recorded, documented, reviewed, critiqued, and redocumented... it time to see a doctor. You may feel like you are 100% healthy in every way, but you are not. There is something wrong with you, something that can be fixed or improved, something that is keeping you from living your life to the fullest. See many doctors at first. See specialists, therapists, nutritionists and keep searching and visiting doctors until you find one, or several, that is willing to invest in your life, discover who you are, and help you be who you can be.

Only then will you begin to discover your inner energy. The life inside of you that you didn't realize you had. It may take a long time and cost you some hard earned dollars. It may make you feel ashamed about everything you have done in your life. But once you discover your inner energy you will realize... it doesn't matter. You will realize you weren't really living.

If you don't make this commitment, to yourself, to discover your inner energy, you are just giving up... on life.
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Maintaining A Balanced Life

Maintaining balance in life is an always changing process, just as our lives are constantly changing. Balance is not some static goal that we achieve and then move on. We achieve balance in the moment, understanding that in the next moment everything may change.

Try standing on one foot for a period of three minutes or until you lose your balance. What did you notice about your body while you were trying to stay balanced? Your leg and foot muscles are working to keep you still. You might crunch your toes to try and grab onto the floor. You'll feel the muscles in your leg flex if you start to lose balance. You might even have to throw your arms out to the side, teeter from side to side, or bend forward to keep from falling. Your body was making adjustments, some small and possibly even bigger ones to keep you balanced. Mastering life balance is handled in the same way. When you feel yourself feeling stressed and unbalanced, it's time to make an adjustment in your life. Here are some time-tested tips or adjustments you can work on to maintain a balanced life.

Know What You Want

Balance occurs when who you are, what you want to do in life, and what you value are aligned with your thoughts, activities and choices. To honor your true self, you must know yourself well. Identify your values, communicate your needs and respect your priorities.
Pay attention to what's important to you and align your life with the desires of your heart. Formulate a crystal clear vision for your life and set goals to achieve this vision. Living a balanced life may require you to make changes in your life. If you are not satisfied with a particular area of your life, it means your choices and activities do not support your priorities. It's hard to feel balanced when you're not living your life in integrity with who you are.

Simplify Your Life

The more activities and the more possessions you have to manage, the more unbalanced your life will feel. Too much of anything can lead to stress so learn to live with the basics. Fewer clothes make laundry much easier. Clean up is much faster with only a modest amount of toys. Avoid over committing. There is nothing worse than feeling like you are constantly on the go, rushing from one activity to the next. By simplifying your life, you can avoid the frenzied state so many of us live in.

Recognize and Manage your Internal Conflicts

Our internal balance is disturbed when we are in conflict with ourselves. Whether it's guilt over making a mistake or worry about the uncertain economy, we must recognize and manage our internal conflicts so we can experience peace of mind. Tell the truth about who you really are and don't be afraid to be different than the norm. Keep an open mind to different perspectives, but choose which perspectives feel right to you. Internal conflict occurs when we aren't clear about who we are or when we are not living our life according to our core beliefs. So be crystal clear about what you believe and honor your beliefs.

Live in the Moment

Worrying about the future and dredging up the past for the purpose of reliving pain will block your energy. To stay balanced, you need to keep the energy flowing in your body. Practice experiencing the moment and everything that it entails. Allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come up for you. If you feel angry, feel the anger. If joy is your primary emotion, embrace it wholeheartedly. Do not stuff your feelings or try to make negative feelings go away. Just be in the moment and you will naturally move through the feelings. Balance requires flexibility and the ability to roll with whatever life hands us. Fighting with life will disrupt the flow.

Make Choices that Move you Toward Balance

For every YES you say in life, you are saying NO to something else. If you say yes to sleeping in, you may be saying no to working out or taking quiet time alone. If you say no to cleaning up your house, you might be saying yes to spending time with the children. Say yes to the tasks, activities, or situations that make you feel more alive and no to the ones that drain you. Pay attention to the choices you make and how they affect all areas of your life. You might choose to take on a promotion at work, but do it only after you've assessed whether or not it will affect the balance in your life. Make decisions in your life by weighing the effects these choices have on your entire life.

Nurture your Spirit and Embrace Love

We all have an innate need to love and be loved. Through the ups and downs of life, we experience an array of unsettling emotions from sadness, anger and fear. Love is the emotion that balances it all. By connecting to and nurturing our spirit, we can experience peace and calm when the storms of life are raging all around us. Nurture your relationship with God - He will give you peace. Spend time in nature - it will ground you. Practice meditation or yoga. Do community service work that enables you to give love to the world. Keep your soul filled with positive and inspiring activities, and you will experience spiritual balance.

Balance is a fluid state - it changes from day to day. So assess balance in your life over a period of time. One or two stressful days does not mean you are living out of balance, but if chaos is the norm for you, you could be yearning for some life balance. Just like the tide moves in and out, look at whether your life is moving away or towards balance.
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Stop Being Negative

It is natural for people to think of negative thoughts when things do not go their way but what makes up for that is that we also have the ability to produce positive ones if we only know how to overcome our negativity at times when negative elements surround us. Here are some ways for you to stop being so negative.

We worry about tomorrow or the next day and what's to come and we worry about what we have done in the past. We worry so much on our actions that we tend to forget that we are living in the present. We are so consumed about the future that we do not live for the present. Live for what is happening now.

When you wake up in the morning, try to think of positive outcomes for the day or better yet, say it to yourself. The more you begin to think of positive outcomes, the more it will be even if the day seems to be full of negative elements. You can always find that sweet spot where something positive comes.

Your actions in the past might worry you now but the thing is, it is already in the past. You have done the deed so why worry about it. If you feel that you have deserved the consequences then you should not feel negative about yourself of the things you have done in the past and have atoned for it.

Exercise releases the natural hormones in our body that makes us happy. Endorphins are naturally occurring hormones that help lift our spirits. Crying also releases these hormones which is why we always feel light and okay after we cry.

Fear is a partner of negativity. When you fear something, you also have negative thoughts about it. The thing about fear is it is all in the mind. The best thing to do about fear is to face it and do it. If you are afraid of jumping out of the ship, do it anyway.

Open yourself up to new possibilities. Welcome the fact that changes can happen any time of the day and by willingly embracing it makes you a better and positive person.

Always look at the brighter side of things. We are clouded with negativity if something does not go our way. So, rather than feel sad and blue about it, look at the situation at another man's eyes. You will discover that you are more fortunate to be in your spot right now than others are.
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Is It Better To Think Than To Blink?

Earlier psychological findings have implicated unconscious thought as being superior to conscious thinking when considering complex decision problems. For instance, researchers at the University of Amsterdam in 2004 reported findings demonstrating that participants who were distracted made better decisions about selecting from a series of apartments than did their counterparts who were not distracted. 

Further, the wildly popular book Blink, written by Malcolm Gladwell, provides numerous illustrations of people making superior decision using their unconscious thought processes rather than conscious thought. However, several recently published studies offer evidence that diminishes, and, in some cases, even contradicts these earlier findings supporting the unconscious mind's superiority for complex decisions. For example, a research team operating at the University of New South Wales and the University of Essex conducted a series of four studies that sought to replicate previous studies that showed the alleged power of unconscious thought using the apartment decision paradigm. 

Interestingly, all of these studies pointed unanimously to the conclusion that, contrary to the claims in the literature, there was very little evidence for the power of the unconscious over the conscious when making decisions. Another recent study analyzed the results of over 17 published studies that pitted unconscious against conscious thought in at attempt to determine if the purported benefits for unconscious thought were real and found that across the majority of these studies it was conscious rather than unconscious thought that was most effective when making complex decisions. 

While these recent studies side favorably with conscious thought providing more desirable outcomes than unconscious thought when making judgments, it is important to recognize that even conscious thought has it disadvantages, such as thinking too much, which has been found to yield suboptimal decision making. In addition, even though the unconscious may produce inferior decision outcomes, these outcomes are typically not that inferior to decisions made consciously.
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Creating Passion

In order to live life abundantly you need to live passionately.  Quit your life.  Throw it away.  Its time to start from Day 1.  Get a pen and paper and write down everything you are passionate about.  Keep writing until you reach 100 items.  If you aren't passionate about 100 things then write down things that you are almost passionate about or could be passionate about.  This is a brainstorming exercise.  It doesn't matter if half the list is crap.

Write down everything you liked as a kid
Write down every movie you have watched over 20 times
Write down the names of your favorite cartoon characters
Write down your favorite toys as a child
Write down your favorite activities.

Now look at the list.  This is the true you.  The unfiltered you.  This is you when you were young, before you learned that you were supposed to be something else.  Before you learned you are supposed to be anything.  Is there anything in your childhood you would like back?  If so, bring it on... completely, unfiltered.  Don't worry what other people think.  This is about passion not pandering.  Take some time and start bring you back into your life.

Now, imagine the perfect life.  Imagine all the possessions, all the friends, all the love, and all the beauty around you.  Paint a picture of it in your mind. Create your story of the perfect life.   Picture yourself sitting in the center of a theater watching the life story of you living the perfect life.  Play this movie in your head everyday, whenever you have a chance to fantasize.  Now, Realize that this isn't a fantasy.  This is your future.

Get excited about this life because it is you.  You know that you are capable of doing anything that anyone else can.  You've already seen your future.  Now make it happen.  Live life as if this future is inevitable.  Know it.  Act how you will act while you are living the perfect life.

If you 10 years ago what you know now, imagine what you could have been capable of doing.

Would you have exercised more?
Would you have helped more people?
Would you have been a better friend, sibling, or parent?
Would you have taken time to have more fun and make more memories?
Would you have laughed more and yelled less?
Would you have enjoyed your job more?
Would you even choose the same career?

Well, you do know now what you didn't know 10 years ago, and you have seen your future.  Live your life the way you should have been living the last 10 years.  Enjoy it.  Don't believe it.  Know it.  Surround yourself with beauty.  Do what you enjoy doing,.  Help people.  Help yourself.
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Positive Thinking

The power of positive thinking isn’t anything mystical, magical, or supernatural. In fact, positive thinking doesn’t have any power at all in the “magical” sense of the word. Positive thinking comes from within and allows you to have a better outlook on life, help you achieve goals, and enable you to make better decisions.

How is this possible, you ask? Keep reading to discover how you can apply the principles of positive thinking to your life and how it can help you in more ways than you realize.

Positive Thinking Can Help you Feel Well
If you’re lying in bed sick with a cold, sore throat or fever, it’s very easy to say “I’m so sick, I’ll never get well.” These negative words are quite common when you feel rotten, but what would happen if you change those negative thoughts into something positive?

The next time you’re sick in bed, try telling yourself that you are healing minute by minute and will feel better soon. Changing your mental attitude in any situation can help you feel well and focus on the positive things instead of dwelling on the negative.

Positive Thinking Can Help you Make Better Decisions

Let’s say you have a choice between a healthy meal and an unhealthy meal. You might say something like “Well, I’ll never lose the extra 10 pounds I’ve put on so I may as well keep getting fat!” and choose the unhealthy meal, thereby harming your body and your health.

If you switch up this train of thought, however, and try to think positively about yourself, your body image, and your health goals, you will be surprised how simple it can be to make the healthier choice! Instead of being negative and berating yourself next time you are faced with a decision, try thinking positively! In the example above, you could think something like “I know I have gained a few pounds, but I am going to take steps to fix this and I know I can eat healthy in the meantime.”

Positive thinking really can help you make better choices!

Positive Thinking Can Reduce Stress

We know that stress is responsible for a variety of ailments and health problems, but constantly being down on yourself and thinking negative thoughts only makes this worse.

For example, let’s say you are called into interview for your dream job. If you set yourself up for failure by thinking things like “I’m not good enough” or “I’ll never get this job,” you are subconsciously sabotaging your chances for the job and stressing yourself out.

Instead, think positive thoughts like “They called me for an interview so obviously I have qualities they like,” or “I know I can do this job, I am perfect for it!” These thoughts can help you adjust your attitude and reduce stress during times of tension because you are focusing on the positive, not the negative.

While positive thinking doesn’t have any mystical or magical powers, adjusting your attitude and working on changing negative thoughts for positive ones can help you reduce stress, make better decisions and feel better about yourself.
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Radical Honesty

"Radical Honesty" by Brad Blanton, A book review

Whenever I pick this book up off the bookshelf I am reminded of the Jack Nicholson's character in A Few Good Men where he says "The Truth? You cant handle the truth!". This is an in your face book that will make some people terribly uncomfortable. People who are afraid of honesty. I believe that while many people will say they want the truth that when they hear it they are livid. Truth hurts. And I admit that I have a double standard with myself when it comes to truth. Most of the time I speak my mind and say what I believe. But I also admit that I also deflect questions from some people whom experience has shown me cannot handle the truth, simply because I don't need the nonsense in my life.

And I admit that I winced when I first saw the books title and then became intrigued when I heard him speak on a variety of radio and television shows. So I bought the book and am glad. And yes it is heavily politically incorrect in an era where pushing and enabling the whole woe is me victim mode is so popular.

One of my favorite parts of this book and advise that I believe more people need to take is where the author writes on page 179" Many of the people who go to therapists or physicians seeking relief are tired. They are tired from having worked out their lives in such a way that they get worn out instead of recharged by living. When someone like this takes responsibility for exercise, nutrition, and rest, a number of their "psychological" problems disappear. The human body has a wonderful capacity to restore itself it is given a break from abuse and a chance to rest. Wellness is a natural state of being for people who have learned how to get out of their own way. "

On page 185 the author notes wisely that "What happens when therapy works and keeps on working is that people want to learn about how to stay well. They become interested in living in the world by constantly renewing their leases on life rather than by being lost in their minds. They can do that best within the context of a sustaining community of other people in the same boat--people who have created wellness and are committed to maintaining wellness."

On page 187 he shares that most people don't take care of themselves out of knowing they should. That there was a man who was told by his physician to lose 15 lbs but didn't and in fact gained 10 more pounds and was told at his next doctors visit by the doctor "If you aren't willing to take care of yourself, why in the hell should I?". That it took having a heart attack that could have been prevented for the man to change. Dr Blanton then wisely notes that "learning to take care of ourselves creatively rather than resentfully is a big step in growing up".

On page 212 Dr Blanton notes "Responsibility means that whatever you are doing, you are willing to experience yourself as the cause. You are the source of your troubles as well as your successes." "As long as you are blaming, explaining, apologizing, trying, resolving to be good, hoping or feeling guilty, you are not being responsible." On page 215 "To get back in touch with who you are when you have been lost in your mind is to get back to your source. This is hard to do. You have to die to live."
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Maximizing Sleep

Don't Sleep You Life Away

Forget what everybody has told you: ”We need plenty of sleep”, “Get at least eight  hours of sleep”, “Buy a comfortable bed because you’ll be spending a third of your life on it”. We don’t need too much sleep. Sleep keeps you away from living your life. Sleep is not comfortable. The purpose of sleep is to re-energize your body. Sleep the necessary hours required for your mind and body to recoup then get your ass up and out. Sleep is not supposed to be comfortable, it is supposed to be efficient.

“Every moment I am awake I can bask in the glory of being the king. But when I am asleep, I lose that experience. What a shame to miss it.” - Napoleon



Improve the Quality of Your Sleep

Now I don't want to discount the importance of sleep. Having enough high quality sleep is important to having an active and energetic life. The key word here is quality. The higher the quality your sleep, the fewer hours you need to rejuvenate your mind and body.

Night Time Ritual

One of the most important things you can do in order to increase the quality of your sleep is to create a night time ritual. This prepares your mind and body to get ready for sleep. Twenty minutes before bedtime dim all the lights in your home. If you don't have lights that dim, turn off all unneeded lights and just leave on a distant light just bright enough to be alert of your surroundings.

After you have set your sleep time ambiance, you can begin getting ready for bed. I recommend having night time clothes that are very comfortable.  Hygiene is also extremely important as well. I don't care how many times you shower in the morning and throughout the day. Always shower, brush yor teeth, and comb your hair before you go to sleep. You want to feel like  a million bucks when you go to sleep. Clean sleep is quality sleep.


Sleepwear

I recommend having night time clothes that are very comfortable. Like wearing a suit to work, it is important to dress for the occasion. Your entire night time wardrobe should be a similar fabric and fit. Familiarity and habit is extremely important in order to create an environment that is conducive to sleep.

The Bed

You probably make your bed every night but you should remake it every night before you are ready to climb in your bed. Acknowledging the importance of the bed prior to going to sleep will enable your mind to acknowledge the importance of this slumber.

A small firm mattress is all you need for sleep. Get rid of all the pillows. You don’t need them. A cozy body is a lazy body. A small blanket or towel makes the perfect pillow. The bedroom should not be a luxury. If you make your bed too comfortable, relaxing, and cozy, you will never want to get up. By having a sleeping environment that is just comfortable enough, you are maximizing the amount of time you have to enjoy life and minimizing the time you are unconscious and lifeless.
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A World of Self Learning

Recent studies show that online learning, distance learning, and self-learning in general, are not only more convenient, but, in fact, more effective than the classroom, for high school, college and adult learners. In the last decade, the Internet, the MP3 player, the iPhone, and other mobile devices,as well as social networking sites, language exchange communities, online learning systems, university courses online and more, have changed how we deal with knowledge. Independent programmer-entrepreneurs are constantly developing new learning applications. The language lab is already obsolete, can the college lecture hall be far behind? The walls of academia, and the costs of learning, are crumbling before our eyes and ears.

For those who are conditioned to think that learning only happens in a classroom, the world of self-learning can be a little daunting. How do we best take advantage these new opportunities.

1. Get interested
Make no mistake. Your interest in the subject is the essential driver of success. You can’t learn what you do not want to learn. Emotion is an important part of the learning process. If you are even moderately interested in a subject, give yourself a chance. The key is to get started. If you can create some pleasurable routines, you may find that the subject grows on you. “L’appetit vient en mangeant” (the appetite comes with eating) as they say in French.

2. Expect problems and you won’t be disappointed.
Don’t expect to understand things, much less remember them, the first time you study them. Trust that things will get clearer as your brain comes to grips with new information. It is like a jig-saw puzzle or a cross-word puzzle. As you start to put the pieces together, or string the words together, the full picture becomes clearer. The brain learns all the time, but on its own schedule. Learning does not take place according to a schedule laid down by a curriculum or teacher. Some things are easier to learn than others. Some things just take longer to click in. Keep at it, and you will gradually find that things that seem difficult at first, will become second nature with time.

3. Cover the same ground from different angles.
Your brain is struggling to form patterns to cope with new input from your learning activities. Sometimes, no matter how long you focus on one subject, your brain is not going to pick it up. If you are stuck, move on. Then cover the same general information from a different source, a different book, or a podcast, or an online lecture or a video. Try to become a grazing learner, roaming the countryside, rather than a feedlot learner, just standing there in one spot, munching on the same bale of hay. The broader your base, the easier it is to learn. Just as the “rich get richer”, the more you know, the more you can learn.

4. Anytime is learning time.
Take full advantage of the Internet, iTunes, and various mobile devices, not to mention good old-fashioned books and magazines. Learn during “dead time”. Listen in your car, on the train, or while jogging. Have your learning with you while waiting in the doctor’s office, or listen while checking out at the supermarket. Anytime is learning time. Remember, you are learning through exposure, not by nailing things down. It is more like moisture accumulation in a cloud, rather than building a brick wall.

5. Be a multimedia learner.
The more varied your learning content, and the more varied the ways in which you learn, the clearer the puzzle will become. Different learning activities suit different people, at different times of the day. Vary your activities in order to keep your interest level up. Even if listening and reading work best for you, treat yourself to the odd video lecture, or get-together with other learners. This will renew your batteries.

6. Join learning communities.
The “loneliness of the distance learner” is a thing of the past. Join a learning community on the web, where members share their knowledge and experience. Search for the communities that suit your interests and learning style. You will find encouragement, advice and stimulus from fellow learners, as well as from tutors, teachers and coaches. In these communities, you can measure your progress against your own goals, or compare your experience with that of other learners. You can even teach and help others, which is a great way to learn.

Never has it been easier nor more exciting to be a learner. Let constant learning be a major part of your life-style. The rewards will be constant, personally, socially, and professionally.
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Dealing with Procrastination

Get A Goal
The most important thing, which you have to do, is to get clear ideas on what you want to do in life. Most people procrastinate because they have no goals. With no goals, people don’t have the will to move ahead in life. Take time and clear it out. Make short term and long-term goals. Make goals in various fields of your life, like career, relationship, financial, health etc. Don’t make a very huge list as it might get too overwhelming for you.

Work On Achieving The Goals
Remove all the tasks, which you can do without and which will not obstruct you in reaching your goals. Keep your eyes on the things, which would help you reach your goal. In addition, if there are some works which you don’t like to do but are important in order to achieve your goal, link those tasks to your goals. It will motivate you to do the tasks and to reach your goals and you would be happy to do that afterwards.

Plan Your Day
The best way to keep yourself away from procrastination is by planning the day. It will clear your mindset and would not even take more than your ten minutes. Sometimes we procrastinate simply because we don’t have any schedule for the day. Set a time for whatever chore you are taking for the day. It will help you stick to your program, which will keep you alert and away from procrastination.

Believe In Yourself
The most important thing to achieve success is the belief in oneself. Unless you believe in yourself, you won’t be able to do much. Have faith in your abilities and the power to turn things around. Remember that failure is just a stepping-stone to success. If in childhood, you wouldn’t have walked because of the fear of falling, you wouldn’t have been able to walk itself. Delete the ‘impossible’ word out of your dictionary and remember that you can do it. Follow your inner desires and success would follow you.

Respect Your Values
Almost every one of us wants to do several things, but actually how many of us do it? The problem is that we don’t respect ourselves and we don’t respect our values. First, have a clear idea about your values and then use them as a navigational compass in all the decisions you make.

Take Breaks
Take breaks when you feel less motivated and are tired. You don’t have to be too hard on yourself. As the habit of not procrastinating will take time to cultivate, and if you are too hard on yourself, you would snap. And that may put you off from the whole idea itself.

Break Down Big Tasks
Breaking down big tasks in smaller components would help you concentrate on that particular task for the moment, which will improve your working ability. Break down the big tasks but schedule it in your time limit so that you don’t spend too much time on a smaller task. This will keep you focused, will provide better results and will not overwhelm you.

Don’t Overdo It
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Sometimes we get too involved in a thing, that we don’t even know when we start getting frustrated and take unnecessary stress. Stick to your time management but allow for little cheats, as it will keep you in for long haul. Even if you do procrastinate, recognize that you are doing it and thrive to change it.
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Overcoming Failure

No one actually wants to encounter failure in their life. However, with the right attitude, you can use your failure in order to get yourself to success in an accelerated fashion.

Overcoming Failure

The first step to overcoming failure is to accept your situation. Failure is a natural part of life. When you attempt to be too perfect, it’ll cause you stress and you won’t be able to get yourself past to the part of acceptance. You don’t want to be carrying that burden around with you forever.

A Positive Outlook

The next step is to turn your negative thoughts into positive ones. Don’t be tempted to wallow in it. Look at your failure as just a stepping stone on your way to success. There’s always a silver lining hidden in any negative situation – Look for yours!

How Failure Can Speed Up Success

When you’re in the process of overcoming failure you’re given the unique opportunity to analyze what went wrong. Take time to study the exact steps that you took, what outcome you received and the reasons why the failure occurred. After this analysis you can draft up a new plan in order to get to success. Only this time you’ll be smarter and better equipped.

Never Give Up On Yourself

As long as you’re still trying on that road to success, then you actually haven’t failed. It’s only once you’ve given up that you’ve failed.  Life is tough though. Of course there will be times when you feel like giving up. It’s those people that still make the extra effort even when they feel like giving up that reach success. There’s nothing stopping you from being one of these people. Give yourself proper time, stop comparing yourself to others and just plough forward with your plans, you’ll get there before you know it.
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Shyness and Role Models

Do you believe imitation is no good? Think again. You can now deal with your shyness by identifying and learning the behaviour of your favorite role model.

The Role of Role Models

We are often actively engaged in observing the reactions of others. Some people make an immediate impression on our minds and we wish to be just like them. If we are exposed to these people for a long time, we start modeling their behavior. Shyness can be learnt from inappropriate role models. To unlearn this process, you need to get back to the basics and identify role models who can help you, overcome shyness.

Identifying Role Models

Appropriate role models help you understand the process of social interactions along with different techniques of conversation skills. However, you need to be very cautious while selecting your role models, as any mistake here, will intensify your problem further. The personal characteristics of your role models matter a lot. For this purpose, Age, gender, race and other personal details need to be taken into account. For example choosing young and outgoing models can pose a problem, as many a times you will find it difficult to adopt their energy levels.

You should also take into account the environmental and social factors that play a role in your model's life. Some people have all the necessary facilities that enables them to be more outgoing and gregarious than others. As far as possible, the role models should be similar to you in terms of status, financial abilities as well as cultural and personal values. Prefer choosing role models who you know rather than those you see only on the silver screen You should also avoid going by the outward charm alone. You need to understand the internal characteristics of the person to make sense of his personality. Avoid depending upon the model for every solution as the best of people make mistakes. You can safely follow the footsteps of your role model for overcoming shyness only if you are careful enough to preserve your individuality in the process.
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